I have always relied on the world to play a part in my child rearing. The joys and challenges of raising your one and only by susan newman. Based on the reallife experiences of carolyn whiteeditor of only child magazine, parent, and educatorand hundreds of interviews with only children and parents of only children, the seven common sins of parenting an only child celebrates the special rewards and opportunities of the single child family and offers a practical and often humorous guide for overcoming the most common errors parents can make when rearing an only child. One thing to keep in mind is that halls research took place during a time when many people lived in rural areas. In her latest book, she explores the new science of child development and what it tells us about the parent child relationship. The seven ages of an only child life and style the. Everyday low prices and free delivery on eligible orders. Presenting fascinating findings and family stories, dr. The second half of the book deals with parenting an only child and is a very good resource for those who have already made the decision. A clear and helpful guide to parenting the only child. Jul 19, 2009 to begin, the only child is the first and last child in one and so is the only chance at parenting the parents get. The freedom of having an only child, and the joy of being one paperback june 17, 2014. About how 15 dynamics in the only child family can psychologically shape the child s growth, and how parents can choose to moderate or enhance the influence of those dynamics if they so choose.
Although parenting approaches change, attitudes about only children remain stuck in the past. The seven ages of an only child life and style the guardian. A swift and absorbing readmay change your mind and the national conversation psychology today. They are meant to learn through play and exploration, and they are great at it, and will, overwhelmingly, turn out just fine, no matter how many parenting books we read. The joys, myths and challenges of raising an only childnew york. Jan 26, 2021 this parenting book actually made me a better parent. The seven common sins of parenting an only child, by. I wondered if anyone has a recommendation for a book about stopping at one raising an only child. This parenting book actually made me a better parent the. Jul 29, 2004 a clear and helpful guide to parenting the only child. Parenting an only child is the essential handbook for raising an only child or for exploring the option. Otherwise it just is like reading opinions of a few people.
Tso useful book for parents and by a british researcher, somewhat polemical in saying the only child experience is not different, and unfortunately out of print. Sep 06, 2012 the fact that the parents of only children have more time and energy to become and stay attuned to the child shouldnt be overlooked, because attunement to the emotional needs of a child is. The joys and challenges of raising your one and only a clear and helpful guide to parenting the only child. The joys and challenges of raising your one and only paperback 14 august 2001 kindle edition. Her dad lived out of state, so i raised her by myself she visited her dad once very summer. Carl pickhardt, author, the everything parents guide to positive discipline as an only child, now raising an only child, i am grateful for the insightful and unique perspective this book offers the reader. The only child project is a community for parents raising an only child. The book is a must read for only children, their parents, and even critics of those parenting an only child.
Had one mc before and after his birth, and due to chemotherapy went into early menopause when he was three. The joys and challenges of raising your one and only parenting an only child. Oct 23, 2019 many psychologists agree that only child syndrome is probably a myth. Susan newman has been the first book ive highlighted sections of since college and my coworders love to borrow. Single parenting the only child setting boundaries with a child who is used to having your undivided attention fostering high achievement, creativity, and independence in only children the effects of having parents, instead of siblings, as role models confronting ageold only child stereotypes. Fiveyearold ruthie spends all of her time with her invisible friend named jessica, and her parents are worried what will happen when ruthie starts kindergarten. Only child guilt parenting advice and parenting blog. From this book i have gained a greater understanding of her relationships to her family of origin and her expectations of her husband and of me. Get the book the seven common sins of parenting an only child by carolyn white.
Offers sound and practical advice in areas potentially worrisome and problematic for parents of only children. A powerful book, the case for the only child challenges misguided advice from family and friends, reveals the facts about only children, and teaches how to. Designed by the parent of an only child to make herself feel better about her choice by collecting countless positive quantitative studies to dismiss the negative onlychild qualitative experiences of sandlers friends and other interviewees, while debunking supposed stereotypes and replacing them with reasons why everyone should do as the chinese do. Social psychologist susan newman, who has been studying singlechild families since the 1980s, shatters the myths of the lonely, spoiled only child, and provides indepth coverage of the critical issues including. Jul 19, 2012 raising one child is a choice many parents are making in this modern age. For couples who are already raising an only child, or for those who are exploring the option, parenting an only child offers encouraging clarity and singular insight. Why you are the way you are revell, only children can be so logical, scholarly, and straightthinking that they may become overly. Parenting an only child 9780767906296 by susan newman. Book recommendations only child experience and research. Lauren sandler author visit amazons lauren sandler page.
May 29, 2008 your child is more likely to get the undivided affection and attention every child deserves. Her book, spanning three sections and over 200 pages, does a lot to strengthen the case of only children in a. The future of your only child palgrave macmillan, march 2008. Journalist lauren sandler is an only child and the mother of one. If you are even thinking about having only one child, and havent made your decision yet, you must read this book. She opens with a criticism of the way we talk about raising children parenting is a word, and a cottage industry, invented in the past 30 years. This is a place where you share your stories, spread the love, discuss issues, and find solutions to parenting problems you might be facing. Jan 28, 2020 children, she explains with the blissful detachment of someone whose children could only be grown, are meant to be messy chaos agents. Newman shares her knowledge and gives downtoearth advice, making this the most accessible, uptodate handbook of its kind.
Focusing on the most important issues, whatever the age of a child. Mar 04, 2006 the thing is that when youre an only child you spend a lot of your time with grownups, youre not in a very child centric home and youre often the only child in a gathering of adults. This book is mainly a reflection on being an only child written by an almostfamous only child. The author brings together an interesting array of sources, from actual studies, to his own personal experience as an only child to write an engaging book that is part analysis and part memoir. Making the right family size decision for you withstanding the pressure to have another. The late coauthors, louise bates ames and frances l. In the book s most trying section, she presents research and testimonies from parents of only children and from adult onlies, which are helpful but occasionally sound somewhat scripted. The freedom of having an only child, and the joy of being one, journalist lauren sandler takes on these stereotypes. Parenting an only child by susan newman 9780767906296. A funny, toughminded case for being and having an only child, debunking the myths about only children and taking glory in the pleasures of singletons. The negative stereotypes lonely, selfish, bossy, spoiled, socially maladjusted make parents think their child will be at a disadvantage when compared to those who grew up with siblings. Despite my oftentimes intense, internal guilt, she had a very happy childhood.
This sweet picture book, from the creator of chrysanthemum and kittens first full moon, does a beautiful job of showing how rich and powerful the imagination of an only child can be. Ilg, were psychologists and cofounders of the gesell child development institute at yale. By a child care authority and mother of an only child, this useful, knowledgeable book provides sound advice on creating an enriching environment thats stimulating and enjoyable for only children and their parents alike. The downtoearth advice makes it your supportive guide for raising a happy, welladjusted child. Why you are the way you are revell, only children can be so logical, scholarly, and straight. The joys and challenges of raising your one and only ebook 9780767909402 by susan newman. This book is a mustread for any parent who has an only child. Personal narratives were piled one on top of another. The only parenting books youll ever need to read the cut. The author is almost pushy about how raising an only child is the only way to parent. What if you want only one child or can only have one and you are a stay at home mom. The freedom of having an only child, and the joy of being one, journalist lauren sandler takes on these stereotypes and sifts through a huge body of research that debunks.
In print for seven decades and updated to cover topics more revalent todaythink child obesity, immunizations, environmental health and alternative family structuresthis trusted companion guide is considered one of the best parenting books out there, a musthave for any. Theres a certain look that only children get when they reveal that they. The case for the only child debunks the myths, taking into account the many changes the nuclear family has. Topping our list of parenting books is one considered to be the american bible of child rearing. The book was filled with firsthand accounts of being an only child, but rather than adding to the book, it was too distracting. In her new book one and only, the writer lauren sandler describes what. One and only book by lauren sandler official publisher. Not only did i raise an only child by choice, but i became a single parent when she was 7. The rest of the book is on each stage of raising your sensitive child, with many practical tips as well as research findings on what really works with these particular children. The myth of the peculiar only child originated in 1895, when ew bohannon, a. Susan newman, bestselling author, loads us up with tips on the unique and not unique at all aspects of raising an only. Off to the right startsoothing and attuning to highly sensitive infants. Articles about parenting children and adolescents by. Parenting an only child christian books, bibles, gifts.
In her 2011 book, the case for the only child, she writes that many women are having children later in life, and that more and more families are concerned about the cost of raising children. It separates fact from fiction and offers fascinating findings and family stories. The joys and challenges of raising your one and only susan newman, author. After all, parenting any number of children is tough, and who is someone else to criticize without having at least a view of the other side.
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